Monday, May 28, 2007

Dating Sucks

People often give me strange reactions when they find out that I'm 28 and have been married for 5 years, or just married at all, even. "What on earth did you do that for, and why so young?" are the usual questions that immediately follow me around while hanging out with other people my age. Hell, my parents even wondered the same thing, and sometimes, they still do, which is quite annoying as hell, but anyway. My usual response consists of the basic "I love her," "I want what's best for her," yadda yadda yadda, but the one reason that hits home the most in those who are questioning me is that "dating sucks," period. That's usually enough to change the subject.

Those of you who date (if WoW players can get dates, oh schnap!) know exactly what I'm talking about. You have these expectations, hopes, shallow or profound, and eventually, you find it incredibly frustrating how much time you can waste dating people who cannot fulfill them. I mean, how many dates do YOU give a person before you can truly decide if they are compatible and worth seeing again or not? One bad date is usually enough, but the fact that people put on their best so that they can give a good first impression complicates the time-investment issue greatly. So how much more time do you give it?

I found that the best way to keep sane while dating is to stop seeing someone at the first real sign of significant incompatibility. Not many people do this, and stay together for far too long (52% divorce rate in the U.S., anyone?). But if you do, you save yourself the torture of a drawn out relationship and the heartache of change. If there is true incompatibility, walk away.

Warning: Incoming WoW Application

Prom Kings and Halcyon were seeing each other for a few weeks, raiding 25-mans together and talking a long-term commitment, i.e., a merger. It was hawt lovin' for sure, but a couple of nights ago, we had our first sign of real incompatibility. We always had a different way of doing things, and that probably should have tipped us off early on that this potential merger wasn't a great idea. I mean c'mon, most mergers end up with guilds breaking up and reforming again... not something we even remotely want to experience. But, we decided to continue to give it a shot. We continued on with our efforts, realizing more and more (as I'm sure they did) that this wouldn't last. And finally, during our last raid, the frustration broke through.

It wasn't an incredibly ugly experience, which says a lot about both guilds, but it wasn't fun either. Ultimately, there was just too much stubbornness to work with, and little issues started to become bigger than they needed to be (on both ends). After talking for a long while that night, we decided it was time to stop and not risk animosity towards one another. After all, good people comprise our guilds. It'd be a shame to let some petty issues cloud our better judgment of one another. And, it's much less stress this way too. =)

So yeah, it was fun while it lasted, and it may be a couple weeks before we attempt Gruul's again, but it was time to move on. I think it's better this way.

/salute Halcyon. Good luck to you guys.

Prom Kings, SHG LF UHP. Inquire within. <3

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